10/28: Relationship blog: He’s Just Not That Into You
By Randi Frank/Online Reporter
When a woman loves a man, she puts all her time and energy to make that certain somebody feel special. But do you ever wonder if your efforts are pointless? No matter how many plans you arrange, calls you make, or use your personality to show him that you are there for him, when a man doesn’t want your attention, he shows it through his actions. Maybe he’s just not that into you. Here are some tips to figure out if you should pack your bags and leave.
1.) He is always busy. Every time you call him, make plans with him, or arrange to see him, he always ends up bailing out on you. A couple of times is nothing to be worried about, but when your thought-to-be man says he wants to spend time with his guys more than he wants to spend time with you, then it’s a problem. When a man truly likes you, he will make sure he gets some alone time with you. Don’t fall into the cycle of believing all his excuses about being busy, because nine times out of ten he had some time in his schedule to relax and chill with other people.
2.) He is afraid of commitment. If you’ve been with him for six months or longer and he still can’t commit to you, then stop wasting your time. After six months, a man knows whether he wants to be with you or not. Some men are afraid of commitment. They have been in a bad relationship in the past and don’t want to make the same mistake. But that doesn’t mean you should let him take all your time and energy. If he tries to change the subject or simply refuses to talk about his feelings for you, then it’s time to find a man that will. Don’t make a man your priority when he makes you an option. If you can’t seem to let him go, then date other men. Don’t see him every time he wants to hang out. Focus on yourself and your needs, and pick up a hobby to get your mind off him. Don’t lose yourself while you are trying ot wait around until he commits to you.
3.) He says he will end his relationship. You ended up falling for a man that already has a girlfriend. He tells, pleads and cries to you every time he is in a stump with his girlfriend. Eventually the two of you form a close relationship and say you’re in love. The only problem is… he keeps pushing back the date he would break up with his girlfriend. You’re just the girl he goes to when his partner ‘ain’t acting right.’ Don’t fall for the lies. Just move on with your life before you start building feelings.
4.)Night visits are the only visits you receive. “Booty calls” is when a man doesn’t want to hang out with you during the day, he only sees you at night, and comes for sex and an occasional conversation afterward. If you find yourself dealing with a man that doesn’t want to take you out on dates and treat you like a respectable woman, then it’s time to bounce. He is just using you for some good loving and a cope out for a real boyfriend/girlfriend relationship. Sex never keeps a man. If he really likes you then he will wait for you. Never give yourself to a man hoping that your skills in the bedroom will keep him. save yourself for a man that is worth your loving. Never settle.
5.) He surrounds himself with women he is attracted to. It is one thing having a friend of the opposite sex, but when your man is around a whole bunch of women that you know he is attracted to, then you need to look at all the evidence. Exhibit A: His so-called best friend is extremely attractive and they have an unusually sexual attraction to each other, then she is a potential girl. Exhibit B: He spends more time being his so-called girl friend that he pushes you to the side. Exhibit C: She gets jealous when she sees you two together, she is always texting and calling him, and she seems to pop up every time you are with him. Their relationship is inappropriate and he isn’t ready to settle down and have a serious relationship.
Even though these are some signs, don’t be oblivious in your relationship, always demand respect, and you will get respect. Never let a man run your life and make him the source of your happiness. When things are going wrong, talk about them, and if need be, end the relationship and move on with your life.