11/4: Relationship blog: Long distance relationships can work
By Sam Sottosanto/Online Editor
Despite the common myth, long distance relationships can work.
Just as long as both partners are dedicated to one another.
And despite what some people may say there are no tricky parts to long distance relationships if you are committed. The only hard thing, obviously, is not seeing the one you love as much as you’d like.
Basically, when it comes to long distance relationships, there are three common problems: (1) fear of cheating, (2) fear of your significant other believing they can do without you, (3) lack of excitement in the relationship.
Of course it’s common to worry about cheating. This is because it is something so easy for your partner to do, especially because he or she is so far away. The most important part of this is trust. Don’t suspect your partner is cheating on you unless you have facts to back it up. Some questions to ask yourself are: is he or she acting differently? If yes, then ask, why? It may not be because of you — it may be because something else is stressing them out.
Fear of your significant other believing they can do without you is also a common fear. Word of advice: don’t be so self-concious about yourself. It’s probably just you overreacting. If there is a problem, that you think you two have grown apart, that’s one thing. But don’t jump to conclusions. And look at your own life: have you been depressed about something lately that could cause you feeling down in the dumps on yourself?
And the last thing — lack of excitement — just becuase you don’t see each other all the time doesn’t mean there can’t be lack of excitement. If the two of you really love each other, you will find ways to pick up the excitement level. Maybe one of you should make a surprise trip to see the other? Another suggestion is send snail mail, the old fashioned way. Perhaps send a batch of cookies you made just for your significant other. Those are only a few suggestions for keeping the excitement upbeat.
So, if you’re in a long distance relationship, although it can be hard, remember to yourself: long distance relationships do work. All you have to do is stay committed.